We all want to have sexiness to a degree, some more than others, but each and every one of us already has what it takes. So, what does it mean to be sexy as a man? Most of us have figured out by now that sexiness is more than just looks. We’ve known plenty of people who “appear” sexy on the outside, but once you get to know them, can be some of the non-sexiest people. We’re going to hit 8 key points of what makes a man sexy—it all starts from the inside. Here it goes:
1. Know Who You Are.
It starts with knowing who you are and being certain of that. There is a certainty when you have confidence, faith, and believe in yourself. When you carry that with you, that shapes everything. Certainty breeds strength which enables you to have something to offer the world.
2. Know Where You Are Going
Often, there is nothing worse than a rudderless man. The sexy man is up to something, he is moving towards something that is bigger than himself. He has a mission he is working on, even if it’s a “bad” one. He is heading in a forward direction.
“Unless you know your mission and have aligned your life to it, your core will feel completely empty.” -David Dieda The Way of the Superior Man
3. Live with Authentic Congruence
Have the strength to be authentic. Don’t be embarrassed to be yourself. A man who exudes sexiness is not ashamed to be himself and is true to who he is and what his values are. Take these characteristics and apply them in your own way.
“Make your life an ongoing process of being who you are, at your deepest, most easeful levels of being.” – David Deida The Way of the Superior Man
4. Be Rooted
Have domain or mastery over your world. To be rooted is to have that sense of “I’m taking hold of my world and I am not going to be ruffled or thrown aside when challenges come my way.” A sexy man masters the challenges where obstacles serve as strengthening. Remember William Wallace from Braveheart (my favorite movie)? He was rooted in his mission to revolt against the evil English tyrant after his bride was executed. He stuck with his mission, took domain over his world, raised an army of Scotsmen, and defeated the evil tyrant.
Find your edge. The sexy man is driven. Whatever he is up to in life, he has energy and passion for. This is the key to bringing all of the other elements together. Who wants to be around an uninspired person or a person who isn’t fueled or driven by something? Who doesn’t want to be around someone who is challenging and enriching and calls out his or her best? When you are driven and have passion, that energy is contagious.
6. Be Sensitive
A sexy man is also sensitive, sympathetic, and caring. A man who puts himself in the shoes of others, listens, and is aware of others is a heart winner. Relationally intelligent and aware of what’s going on in the lives of the people around you. This makes those around you feel valued and comfortable being who they are. When your friends, lover, or family feel like they can be around you with ease, you have succeeded in being sensitive, sympathetic, and caring sexy man.
7. Seek Resolve
A sexy man doesn’t give up in something worthy. He is determined to find the solution and finds the strength and energy to do so even when circumstances or situations are difficult. As Stephen Mansfield says in Mansfield’s Book of Manly Men,“True men do things.” You can know where you are headed, which is a step forward, but you need to actually do it.
“Manhood at the most basic level can be validated and expressed only in action.” -George Gilder, from Sexual Suicide (1973)
The way your present yourself. This begins with your internal presence and energy, but it ends with your external presentation, the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, and what your appearance looks like. Don’t stress out about having to fit in one style, you can fall into many different archetypes, but a sexy man knows what looks good on him and wears clothing that fits him and elevate who he is.
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