Kris Wolfe is a good friend of ours and the founder of Good Guy Swag, a site that promotes integrity, influence, and confidence to be successful in all things. This week, we are sharing a post from his blog on the 10 questions every good guy should ponder. Thanks for letting us share.
A good guy is continuously evolving. He is always looking for areas of self-improvement and self-realignment in his life. Below are 10 questions every good guy should ponder in 2016.
1. Do I keep good company?
You can tell a lot about a man by the company he keeps. Are the people around you making you better or worse? Does reconnecting with old friends mean the resurfacing of old habits? You need to surround yourself with the kind of people who are going to push you in the direction of greatness. Iron sharpens iron, and a good guy sharpens a good guy.
2. Am I taking the time to get to know the people around?
We enjoy getting to know both familiar and new faces, but are we taking the time to get to know those around us? Or do we merely repeat the same general questions like, “how you are doing?” or “how was your weekend?” Take the time to have genuine conversations with those around you. You might share the same interests and hobbies, or share in similar struggles. When you meet people for the first time, instead of asking them where they work, ask them what they are passionate about. I bet you’ll hold a longer and deeper conversation.
3. Am I all talk, or do I walk the walk?
I am sure you have heard the idiom practice what you preach? Nobody likes a hypocrite. Don’t justify your character through words. Let your actions to do the talking. Is there something in your life that you are preaching but not practicing?
4. What am I exposing myself to?
The Law of Exposure states that what you expose yourself to dramatically shapes how you think, feel, and act. We tend to think that our filter is stronger than it actually is. In order to change as a person, you must look at what you are bringing in. We are becoming numb to the media that we ingest, and the sad thing is it is self-induced. It can be anything from a television show, a style of music, or an addiction to pornography. Is what you expose yourself to making you better or worse?
5. Do I just exist or am I truly living?
Don’t make a living that you forget to make a life. Are you simply going through the motions of everyday life that you are losing sight to what makes you happy and alive? Remember, you are in the driver’s seat; you are the one who controls your own destiny. Are you living your life in a way that is worth telling stories about? Be spontaneous. Be bold. Live the life that you have always wanted.
6. Am I living a life of regret?
In the book, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day: How to Survive and Thrive When Opportunity Roars, Mark Batterson talks about the two types of regrets: regrets of action and regrets of inaction. A regret of action is “wishing you hadn’t done something.” A regret of inaction is “wishing you had done something.” Regrets of inaction will force upon you the uncomfortable feeling of wondering how your life would have been different if you had taken a risk and seized the opportunity that was in front of you. “Think of every opportunity as God’s gift to you. What you do with those opportunities is your gift to God.” Is there an adventure that you have wanted to take, a girl that you have wanted to talk to, or a job that you have wanted to apply for? You need to seize the opportunities in your life, before it’s too late.
7. What are my intentions when I drink alcohol?
Hilarity can be defined as extreme amusement, especially when expressed by laughter. Do you become a laughing stock when you drink? Are you drinking to get drunk or are you enjoying the craft that goes into an alcoholic beverage? Some make hilarity the goal rather than the limit when they consume alcohol. Nothing good ever comes out of drinking Fireball!
8. Am I making excuses rather than taking risks?
I recently attended the SEEK Conference in Nashville through the FOCUS (Fellowship of Catholic University Students) organization. The conference was nothing less than life changing. When I was initially asked by my peers if I wanted to go to the conference, I first thought of all of the costs or things that I might have to give up in order to go. Registration costs, extra kenneling costs for my dog, a burned day of vacation at work, and being out of my diet and workout routine were just some of the excuses that I made. However, the benefits definitely outweighed the costs. I grew with my brothers and sisters in Christ, gained meaningful relationships, listened to and met world-class speakers, and realized areas where I need self-realignment. Are you looking at what something might cost you rather than looking at the benefits to be gained?
9. Do I give up on things, dreams, and/or promises?
Dr. Jonathan Reyes gave a speech at the SEEK Conference where he talked to the men about four fighting virtues. The greatest men possess perseverance, greatness of heart, courage, and zeal. Dr. Reyes defined zeal as the process of setting your face/eyes on a goal and not deviating from it. How do you strengthen your commitment to your dreams and promises so that you don’t deviate from your goals?
10. What do I seek?
Is there Someone or something that you seek in your life? What do you want in your life and what do you want to get out of your life? What moves you? We only get one shot at this life. Make it count.
To read more or to subscribe to Good Guy Swag, click here.